It’s not always easy to find time to paint when I’m running around on camera. But it’s not for naught, because all that I’ve experienced helps me to refine my vision for one of my upcoming series.
This morning I dug out this unfinished painting, “Beauty Blinded,” from a few years ago; I’m not sure yet if I want to finish it or start anew. It’s part of that series I just mentioned, which I’ve been dreaming a lot about lately: Women + Mass Media (working title, hehe). After nearly eleven years working onscreen, I’ve seen for myself how this business affects us; both those of us in front of the camera, as well as those watching at home. And it’s something worth examining.
Growing up, I was taught that a person’s most important characteristics lie within: intelligence, talent, kindness and strength of character are traits to strive for. So I worked hard, earned top grades, and practiced my art & musical instruments with diligence. Focused in this way, I found little use for personal beautification, and that coupled with coke-bottle glasses and my nerdy nature, made for a rather homely presentation; but it did not bother me, because I knew I was a good person and that’s all that mattered.
Fast forward to many years later, I suddenly found myself on television — an unexpected turn that surprised me as much as anyone else. And I quickly discovered, that in this business, it’s not what’s inside that counts. In this industry, the most important thing is to be “beautiful.” And mind you, being beautiful on television, isn’t the same as being beautiful in real life. In real life, we think our friends, our mothers & sisters, our grandmothers & daughters, are beautiful not just because of the color of their eyes or shape of their face, but based on the content of their hearts. But on television, as in most mass media, beauty is very rigidly and narrowly defined. Despite talk of body positivity running rampant, so many of my colleagues are cutting themselves up with plastic surgery: I can’t tell you how many friends of mine didn’t “make it big” until after a boob job. Meanwhile, I myself have been admonished for the tiniest blemish (Horrors! An imperfection lol!), and then praised when I lost weight, even though I’m already quite thin. Rather like a dog who has retrieved a ball — “Good girl!” they say. Am I? Am I good? Because this kind of praise, as condescending as it is vacuous, doesn’t feel good.
And what about the viewers at home? What about the people connived into believing that their air-brushed celebrity crushes are as perfect as they appear, or that they too, at home, should aspire to squeeze and alter themselves to fit an unrealistic ideal in the name of self-improvement? And in my personal experience as a math & SAT tutor, I have discovered that so many little girls are more concerned with being pretty & popular rather than being smart, or even just being good human beings.
These conversations and thoughts are not new. We’ve been discussing this for decades. And when I was a child, my parents did not allow me to watch much television, in part for these very reasons — in my home, gender roles, unrealistic beauty standards, and the dangers of mass media consumption were topics for discussion. But now, having experienced first-hand the pressures that we, the women behind the scenes in media, are actually exposed to, I have something I’d like to add.
Working in the media, I could make a documentary about this subject, or conduct interviews; I could write a report or make a YouTube series. But since I am an artist first, perhaps I’ll just put brush to canvas and see where that leads me.
Thanks for reading, and as I’ve often said on the air, stay tuned.
About 1 in 4 Americans suffers from some form of mental illness in any given year 1. And because of the stigma often associated with mental illness, many people afflicted do not seek help, which means the number is likely even higher.
I am fairly certain that each of us has either experienced mental illness ourselves, or has someone close to us who has; and considering its prevalence, isn’t it time to get rid of the stigma and acknowledge that mental illness is NOT something to be ashamed of?
May is Mental Health Awareness Month in the United States, and is a perfect opportunity to support one another (and ourselves) in getting educated about what mental illness is, what it isn’t, and how we can all help each other to become or remain mentally healthy. (Learn about mental health/illness here»).
To that end, G Gallery in Bellmore, NY, is holding an art show entitled “ASYLUM – It’s All In Your Head,” sponsored by the Long Island Crisis Center, which provides “24/7, free, high quality, confidential and non-judgmental programs and services to support and empower Long Islanders at critical times in their lives.”
This promises to be a diverse showcase featuring passionate local artists, and I am very pleased and proud to say – I am going to be one of them! Two pieces which I created that reflect various states of mental distress will be on display, as well will be offered for sale.
So please save the date: Saturday, May 18th 7:30 – 9:30 pm
…and the place: G Gallery, 2717 Grand Avenue, North Bellmore, NY, 11710
Wine & hors d’oeuvres will be served, and any questions may be directed to Liz at: 516-376-2737.
Hope to see you all there, and please remember, mental illness is nothing to be ashamed of, and you should never give up hope. We are in this together. <3
This TEDTalk inspired me so much; I hope it does the same for you!
I had to pause this in the middle just to say “Yes, yes, yes!” Continue on, Ms. Gilbert!
From The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho.